What To Do If You Dislike Your Lover’s Friends

 

Men Having Fun TogetherGetting together with a new lover is one of the best feelings in the world. It’s not just the sex, though sex is always a definite plus. It’s the connection you have with another human being, learning to trust and love each other, learning who the other person is and how that helps you become a more complete person.

 

Unfortunately, you don’t get to pick and choose what parts of your lover’s life you have to interact with. Now you have to deal with things like their job, their family and their friends. What happens if you don’t actually like their friends? This is a distinct possibility and it’s important to keep it in mind. Just because your lover is a great person who you love being around doesn’t mean their friends are going to be the same. You could well find their friends incredibly obnoxious, and difficult to be around.

 

It’s tempting to try and ignore your this little hiccup in your romance. After all, you enjoy your lover’s company, so certainly you can suck it up and try to get along with their friends. That’s a good way of thinking, but unfortunately it doesn’t really help things. It only leads to you becoming bitter and annoyed, eventually blaming your lover for ‘making you’  deal with their friends. That’s a recipe for the break up of the relationship!

 

Instead, you’re going to have to figure out how to be honest. Don’t insult your lover’s friends, that is not a good idea. It will only make them defensive, which in turn causes arguments. Instead, try to figure out how to describe it as your problem. Don’t say that there’s something wrong with them, say that there’s something you don’t enjoy. You should also try to figure out situations in which you actually can deal with their friends.

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By being honest about what upsets you and offering a potential solution, your lover will see that you’re not just trying to control them. You’re actually trying to meet them halfway on something with which you have a problem. Doing that allows your lover to see that you take the relationship seriously and also that you love them for who they are. It may be more difficult than simply saying you refuse to hang out with their friends, but it will also help make the relationship far more solid. That’s always a thing for which you should strive.