Best Conversation Starters For First Dates

Conversation On First Dates

So the long wait has finally arrived and you’re going out on that first date. You’ve showered, brushed your teeth and dressed appropriately for your big day but you haven’t a clue what you’re going to talk about. Perhaps this is a good time to stop for a moment and gather some thoughts and prepare some topics of discussion.

First dates are challenging enough without stalling the process with long lapses of uncomfortable silence. It’s rather like peeling an onion; little by little layers of who and what we are begin to peel away.

Here are some easy ways to get a good conversation going on a first date without scaring your first date away.

Start Slowly

Rome wasn’t built in a day and your relationship won’t be either. Have a few safe topics in mind for your first date such as where the person works, 3 things they enjoy doing for fun, favorite colour, how long they’ve lived in the area, how they got into that line of work and so on.

As you unfold your conversation, it will lead you into other areas that will help to keep the conversation flowing, so don’t stress. Once you’ve asked one or two questions the conversation should begin to ebb and flow with both of you interacting.

Genuine Interest

No one wants to go out with someone who doesn’t show a true interest in what you’re doing. That said, as you’re asking questions you should show a genuine interest in the answers.

First dates are a time to get to know one another better and explore the possibility of a long term relationship. If you’re not really interested, then you shouldn’t be out on that date in the first place.

Share And Share Alike

As your working on conversation skills be sure to share and share alike. There’s nothing worse than one person having to carry the entire conversation.

Open up slowly and give a little bit about yourself as well. Listen and comment when appropriate. As the conversation ebbs and flows you’re sure to have comments in between. These little comments will lead to more conversation so take them and go with it.

Wrapping It All Up

Date Number TwoToward the end of the date, when both of you are wondering about date number 2, it’s time to take a stand. If you had a great time, tell her and ask if you can see her again sometime. If you didn’t have a great time, then thank her for the date and stop there.

By focusing on the answers of the other person to a few easy starter questions that you’ve already prepared, you’re sure to have a wonderful first date and learn more about the other person.